SubConscious: Losing Control

so why do some of us find it so hot to not be in control?? i don't mean "easier", "relaxing" or "nice for a change". i mean *hot*. like someone's hot body can *make* us hot. why would being controlled be such a heady turn-on??

perhaps it isn't. not directly at least. perhaps having somebody else in control simply removes inhibitions that are blocking us from fully feeling our own natural horniness. the horniness is there all along. it just gets unmasked when somebody else is in control.

kind of like tylenol. unlike some other drugs, it doesn't make us feel good. it just removes the aches that prevent us from naturally feeling good.

if that's right, then we'd expect subs to have more sexual inhibitions than the dom/mes. does that fit with your experience?

well, that's one theory. what's yours? or don't you care as long as it makes you hot? :-)